Q – Jane, Newcastle, England – I am working as a sales manager in a company, my problem is anger which is destroying my professional life how should I control it?
Karan Sekhri – Anger has a gradual progression table consisting of 4 ‘Ds’ i.e. ‘Desires’ leads to ‘Disappointment’, ‘Disappointment’ leads to ‘Distress’, ‘Distress’ drives you mad (anger) which leads to ‘Destruction’. So say NO to ‘Desires’ will lead to NO ‘Disappointments’ to NO Anger and further NO ‘Destruction’. In current scenario it not easy to say NO to desires as sometimes they are being infused by external environment or people. Overcoming desires is very important whether they are internal or external or for any object or for any person or for any specific emotional state. Now in your case there is a very easy way to control your anger at workplace i.e. to focus on your ‘efforts’ rather than ‘results’. You should justify your 8-10hrs work shift to yourself rather than any other person in terms of sheer hard work, target figures or results should be kept aside. Believe me you will outshine your overall performance within few days. Negative or positive situations are not in our hands ONLY thing which we can do is to work to fullest. Once we devote ourselves into it everything else follows like recognition, target achievement, perks, increments etc.